Comparison plays both a positive and negative role in one’s ability to succeed at just about anything. In the equestrian sport, unfortunately we as athletes are not only comparing ourselves with others, but our horses with one another as well. We spend countless hours improving our skills, caring for our horses, and striving for perfection. While comparison can drive motivation, it can also breed negativity, self-doubt, and unhealthy competition.
Positive Comparison
At its best, comparison in the equestrian community serves as a source of education, inspiration, and motivation. Watching a skilled rider execute dressage movements or a winning jump off can help us reflect on our own riding, seat, and aids. We often look to top professionals as role models, studying their techniques and learning from their experiences. We can learn new training methods, better horse care techniques, and various tips and tricks from others within the industry.
Negative Comparison
The equestrian industry is already a high-pressure environment, with physical, financial, and emotional demands. When we as riders feel that we’re not meeting certain standards, we often run into feelings of burnout, anxiety, or depression. We become so hyper-focused on achieving perfection and impossible standards, that we ultimately sacrifice our well-being. Perfectionism creates constant dissatisfaction and frustration, as no one can meet such high expectations all the time.
Comparison in the equestrian world often turns negative when it becomes a source of insecurity or envy. Social media has increased this effect, with riders constantly scrolling through highlight images and reels of others’ successes. The nature of social media algorithms work to keep its user stuck in a rabbit hole. Our initial fascination and excitement of watching perfect movements, rounds, horses, and luxurious accessories or facilities eventually stop impressing us and start depressing us. “I wish my horse was that nice”… “If only I could afford those boots”… “How come she got a new horse”… Comparative thinking patterns cause riders to feel that unless they have a flashy horse, attend elite competitions, or earn major accolades, they are not good enough. This mindset fosters self-doubt and leads to a decline in self-image.
What we often forget is the reality behind someone’s social media posts—hard work, struggle, lameness issues, debt, failed relationships, drama, mental health challenges, and much more. It is easy to be discouraged, especially when all you see are the highlights. Unfortunately, social media is not welcoming in sharing setbacks, mistakes, struggles, etc. (which are all very real) because with that comes an inflow of judgment, hate, and criticism from others.
Comparing More than Ourselves
As an equestrian, comparison doesn’t just apply to us as riders, but also to our horses. It’s common for us to compare the quality, breed, talent, or training of our horses with others. Every horse has its strengths, weaknesses, and individual quirks. It’s natural to admire other horses, but it can become dangerous when we find ourselves wishing for a different partner. A famous quote says, “If you’re riding a horse, you’ve already won”. Nothing could be closer to the truth. So often, we get caught up in the equestrian world bubble, that we forget how great of a privilege it is to even ride a horse.
Breaking Free from the Cycle of Comparison
Regardless of where you are in your journey with horses, it’s important to set personal goals that are not only realistic, but centered on individual progress rather than external validation. Your worth, happiness, and mental health should not be dependent on the thoughts or comments of others. Find the small wins in each day, and you will find yourself living a happier life both in and outside the barn.
By prioritizing community, we can reduce the negative impact of comparison and foster healthy competition. The equestrian world thrives when riders support each other, sharing experiences and knowledge rather than tearing each other down. Cheering on fellow riders at shows, offering encouragement during training sessions, and recognizing the challenges others face behind the scenes can build a more inclusive and positive environment.
How to avoid the negative impacts of comparison within the equestrian industry:
- Set Personal Goals: Focus on your own progress and set goals that are meaningful to you, rather than basing success on what others are doing. Celebrate small victories and appreciate the steps you’re taking on your journey.
- Recognize Social Media’s Filters: Understand that social media only shows a small, curated part of people’s lives. Behind every perfect photo is hard work, challenges, and imperfections that are often left out.
- Appreciate Your Unique Journey: Every rider has a different path, and every horse is unique. Rather than wishing for someone else’s horse, appreciate the bond you have with your own and the progress you’ve made together.
- Prioritize Mental Health: Distance yourself from sources of comparison by creating healthy boundaries from potential triggers such as social media. Take time to recognize and embrace gratitude throughout your day whether in the barn or not.
- Foster a Supportive Community: Encourage positivity and support within your equestrian circle. Celebrate each other’s successes and offer help when someone is struggling.